Friday, November 1, 2013

6 Tips When Communcating With Foreigners

Game Recap: These past two weeks we have only had two matches. One against the youngest team in our league, Kourtane, and the second against a team similar to ours, HPK, featuring a former LSU tiger Marina Kender. The girls on Kourtane are all younger than 18 and are coached by one of the Finland National Team coaches. It's a great way to expose the future of Finland's National Team to the talent already in Finland. Playing against more experience players definitely give these girls an advantage as far as development goes in comparison to the U.S. Typically in the U.S. high school players compete in off-season competition under Junior Olympics, similar to AAU for basketball, against girls there age or a few years older. There are only a handful of teams that consistently compete above their age group. In contrast, European league play is the only opportunity for women interested in volleyball to compete, so ages can range from 16-30 on a team. It's always fun playing against a younger team, not solely due to the fact that scoring is easier, but they have much more heart and passion. When they get a big block or point it's like they won a National Championship. On the flip side, it's also harder to stay focused when you know you're going to win. The first set we beat them to the ground but the next two sets our team became complacent and we balls that usually are taken without hesitation started to fall and clear communication disappeared. Although we swept the young team, our coach was disappointed with our performance so we made a game plan and went hard the next day in practices to reenergize and refocus our team.

The game this past Wednesday against HPK went better than our match against Kourtane, mostly due to the fact that they're only one of the three teams that stand in our way of winning the league this year. In our second preseason scrimmage against them we didn't play too hot, so that coupled with the fact that one of their best hitters, Skender, was out with a hand injury made it really important for us to capitalize on this opportunity to put a "W" against them in the books. HPK relies heavily on their outsides offense, making them easier to defend. In the first two sets we came out with good focused every and took care of business but, as every team does, we began to play more lax after the break in the third set and ended up losing after being up 23-20. Losing that set was yet another good teaching moment of how quickly momentum can change after just one error in the game of volleyball. Our team has been placed in a lot of different situations this early in the season, which is beginning to transfer well onto the floor. Despite dropping the set we were able to bounce back and take the set and match for the win.

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Communication in the Absence of Language

When talking with friends and family back home, one of the first questions people ask me is: "What language do they speak over there"? Well, like any other country they have do have their own national language: Finnish. If I had to describe it, I would tell people to talk very fast, with a lot of "ee" and "ah" sounds, throw in a couple of rolled R's then assign one word with up to 15 different meanings depending on the context of the sentence and you have Finnish. Learning hasn't been as hard as remembering, everything sounds the same to me, but I have picked up the basics. Thankfully, however, the majority of the country speaks English. With the younger generation beginning to learn English around 3rd grade and the lack of Finnish words that can cover English, i.e. smoothie, it has been said that Finnish may be a dying language but until the babies of the current generation have babies, I think the 60 year old citizens and stubborn men -- men are least likely to speak/learn English, probably has a lot to do with pride -- are going to be just fine.

However, in the instances when English and Finnish collide in an unknown world of language confusion, I’ve learned that communication can still exist in the absence of verbal language. Facial expression and the use of hand gestures has helped me in numerous occasions, thankfully I have an extremely animated face and have a habit of talking with my hands in the first place. This approach has been very helpful with my assistant coach who speaks little English…or so I thought. His booming voice with a harsher tone was first interpreted as him always yelling just to be yelling but as I got to know him through his interaction with my teammates I've learned he's quite funny. He's a technical coach, which I love, but it always bothers me when he gives my teammates feedback but nothing to me mostly due to the language barrier. One day while we were practicing our 4-to-4 shot, he was speaking with my teammate when we made eye contact, another HUGE aspect in communication, and he continued explain with various arm motions, pointing out certain points of his arm swing as he explained to her, in Finnish, the shot. My next swing I really focused on the technique he was explaining to her but showing me and got it on my first try. Throughout the next week of practices I would continue to watch his interaction with players and apply them to my game. During one practice I made some comment about the organization of the drill and he responded…IN ENGLISH! Come to find out he knows quite a bit of English but refrains from speaking because he is unsure of the direct translation. Another common occurrence in Finland. There are many people who know English but are unsure of their skills and become shy. Shyness is a very Finnish trait. Many Finn's will avoid eye contact when speaking and are beyond humble when receiving recognition. Imagine my surprise as a loud, in your face American lol. However, all of that goes out the window once a few Lonkero's and Minittu shots are in their system. ;)

6 Tips To Communicating With Foreigners

1. If you know how to say hello in their language, don't be rude. Say hello.

2. If you do say hello in their language and they continue to speak, politely say you don't know how to speak “X” language and you only speak English. MOST of the time they will appreciate the effort to speak their native tongue and speak English if the know how. Otherwise they'll politely smile and go on about their life.

3. When speaking with someone not fluent in English, speak slowly but not like they are actually slow. Let me reiterate that, just because they don’t fluently speak English doesn’t mean you need to over emphasize pronunciation or speak louder. You’re not talking to your 70-year old hearing-impaired grandmother or mouthing to a friend outside your classroom. As American's we underestimate the rate at which we speak and just like listening to your foreign language teacher speak in high school, they will be lost if you go on speaking at American-hyper speed. (Remember how many times you wished your teacher would play back the listening comprehension of your exams? Same applies here people.)

4. Speak clearly, don't beat around the bush. Learn how to speak in direct sentences avoiding "like" and “uh” as much as possible. Also, feel free to exercise your poetry skills by including common descriptive words.

5. Feel free to use your hands but don't over do it. People will think you're being too aggressive and might hit them.

6. Smile, even if you're both lost in translation. A smile is a smile in all languages.


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